Horoscopes and Fortune Tellers

I've always been a bit fascinated by these things. NOT by the horoscopes or the fortune tellers, but by the people who seem to put so much faith in them. Amazing, really. I avoid looking at horoscopes because I don't want to ever get caught up in them, and they can certainly draw you in. Like walking into and spider web. But if you are one who gets caught up in them, consider this: read each of the paragraphs, each of the sentences. Likely just about everything written is in such general terms that it could apply to almost anyone on any given day. But take it a step further. Have someone take the horoscope out of any paper on any day and actually cut out each paragraph individually, but cut OFF the star sign so that they have only little slips of newspaper with the statements. Now, carefully read each one and see if you can pick out which one applies to your sign. The odds are against you. In fact, according to a book titled "Why Do Buses Always Come In Threes - the Mathematics of Everyday Life" a study was done that proved that people cannot pick out the statements that apply to themselves. They cannot match up the statements with the star signs. What happens is that someone reads their sign and believes the parts that MIGHT apply to them, and ignores the ones that don't. Not too scientific is it? Want to really know how your day will turn out? Well, I can't predict the future any better than you can. But I have found that with very few exceptions, my day usually turns out pretty much the way I expect it to, day after day after day. If I get myself in a positive frame of mind and decide to have a good day, I usually do. You can do the same. Why would you rely on someone else to tell you what kind of day you will have?

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The Diary

This is dedicated to every woman (or man) who ever attempted to get
into a regular workout routine. A must read!

Dear Diary...
For my fiftieth birthday this year, my husband (the dear)purchased a
week of personal training at the local health club for me. Although I
am still in great shape since playing on my high school softball team,
I decided it would be a good idea to go ahead and give it a try. I
called the club and made my reservations with a personal trainer I'll
call Bruce, who identified himself as a 26 year old aerobics instructor
and model for athletic clothing and swim wear. My husband seemed
pleased with my enthusiasm to get started. The club encouraged me to
keep a diary to chart my progress.

Monday:
Started my day at 6:00 am. Tough to get out of bed, but found it was
well worth it when I arrived at the health club to find Bruce waiting
for me. He is something of a Greek God - with blond hair, dancing eyes
and a dazzling white smile. Woo Hoo!! Bruce gave me a tour and showed
me the machines. He took my pulse after five minutes on the treadmill.
He was alarmed that my pulse was so fast, but I attribute it to standing next to him in his Lycra aerobic outfit. I enjoyed watching the skillful way in which he conducted his aerobics class after my workout today. Very inspiring. Bruce was encouraging as I did my sit-ups, although my gut was already aching from holding it in the whole time he was around. This is going to be a FANTASTIC week!!

Tuesday:
I drank a whole pot of coffee, but I finally made it out the door.
Bruce made me lie on my back and push a heavy iron bar into the air -
then he put weights on it! My legs were a little wobbly on the
treadmill, but I made the full mile. Bruce's rewarding smile made it
all worthwhile. I feel GREAT!! It's a whole new life for me.

Wednesday:
The only way I can brush my teeth is by laying on the toothbrush on the
counter and moving my mouth back and forth over it. I believe I have a
hernia in both pectorals. Driving was OK as long as I didn't try to steer. I parked on top of a GEO in the club parking lot. Bruce was impatient with me, insisting that my screams bothered other club members. His voice is a little too perky for early in the morning and when he scolds, he gets this nasally whine that is VERY annoying. My chest hurt when I got on the treadmill, so Bruce put me on the stair monster. Why would anyone invent
a machine to simulate an activity rendered obsolete by elevators? Bruce
told me it would help me get in shape and enjoy life. He said some other STUFF too.

Thursday:
Bruce was waiting for me with his vampire-like teeth exposed as his
thin, cruel lips were pulled back in a full snarl. I couldn't help
being a half an hour late, it took me that long to tie my shoes. Bruce
took me to work out with dumbbells. When he was not looking, I ran and
hid in the men's room. He sent Lars to find me, then, as punishment,
put me on the rowing machine - which I sank.

Friday:
I hate that JERK Bruce more than any human being has ever hated any
other human being in the history of the world. Stupid, skinny, anemic
little cheerleader. If there was a part of my body I could move
without unbearable pain, I would beat him with it. Bruce wanted me to
work on my triceps. I don't have any triceps! And if you don't want
dents in the floor, don't hand me the &*@*#$ barbells or anything that
weighs more than a sandwich. (Which I am sure you learned in the
sadist school you attended and graduated magna cum laude from.) The
treadmill flung me off and I landed on a health and nutrition teacher.
Why couldn't it have been someone softer, like the drama coach or the choir director?

Saturday:
Bruce left a message on my answering machine in his grating, shrilly
voice wondering why I did not show up today. Just hearing him made me
want to smash the machine with my planner. However, I lacked the
strength to even use the TV remote and ended up catching eleven
straight hours of the *$@#&& Weather Channel.

Sunday:
I'm having the Church van pick me up for services today so I can go and
thank GOD that this week is over. I will also pray that next year my
husband (the MORON) will choose a gift for me that is fun - like a root
canal or a hysterectomy.

Personal safety - PLEASE read!

Important information for females of ALL ages.
When this was sent to me, I was asked to forward it to ladies, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts : 1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets. 2) The second thing men look for is clothing . They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing. 3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered. 4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two: Are office parking lots/garages. Number three: Are public restrooms. 6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught. 7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years. 8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it. 10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'we're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target. 11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target. 12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent. 13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts . 14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.
Start causing trouble and he's out of there. 15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble. 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! 2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet /purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives. 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you
where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location. 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage: A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.) 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!) 7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern! 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim. 9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night. Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America 's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Delusions

I believe it was Spinoza who said that the difference between a man going through life and a rock falling down a hill was that the rock didn’t have any delusions about being in control. I’m not much of a philosopher, and I don’t waste a lot of time reading philosophy either. I don’t agree with much of what Spinoza said, but he might have been on to something. I like to think that I am the “master of my fate” and “the captain of my soul”, as the British poet, William Henley wrote in his poem “Invictus”. I make careful plans, I schedule my time, and I keep a calendar. But, to quote yet another philosopher of sorts, the late John Lennon, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” It is almost comically predictable that just when I think everything is falling into place, all my plans are working out, and everything will turn out just as I hoped, something happens. Life happens. In fact, I’ve become convinced that it is precisely at those moments when everything seems to be coming off the rails that we prove who and what we really are. Anyone can probably hit a little white ball into a little hole repeatedly with a high degree of success if we remove all the little obstacles and variables. But then, that would not be golf, would it? There is grass growing, wind blowing, birds flying by, people talking, cars on the highway, airplanes overhead. And with all the little details of grip and stance and stroke speed, it is a real challenge. In fact, I suspect that, even with all their skill and experience, most of the top pros would have to admit that there is an element of chance in every long putt. I was watching Andre Agassi play a tennis match on television against a young fellow from Canada. I expected Agassi to win and he did. But he certainly didn’t make every point along the way. No, he gave up many points. And I watched him when that happened. He appeared to consider, maybe only for a second or two, how he had lost the point. Then he seemed to make a tiny shake of his head, clear his mind of it, and get set for the next serve. He rarely lost two points in a row. He seemed to file away data, make an adjustment, and move on. My point in all this is that I believe our lives are a bit like guided missiles. Think about that analogy for a moment. When a so-called guided missile leaves the launching pad, it definitely is not aimed toward its target, is it? No. It is probably pointing straight up. But the guidance system has the necessary data regarding the precise location of the target. As soon as the rocket is launched, the guidance system begins to make a series of course corrections. Those corrections continue throughout the flight until finally the target is hit. You could say that the missile was “off target” through most of its flight. To have success in life we must understand what our target is. We have to have some clear sense of purpose. That’s the reason why setting goals is so important. No ship’s captain would ever leave port without first knowing what his destination is. You might think of the final destination as a long-term goal. Other ports of call along the way would be short term goals. When the ship leaves port, the captain sets course for his first port of call. That course might have to include many changes in direction. So it is in life. We make plans. We think we are in control. And to the extent that we recognize the need for course corrections along the way, perhaps we are in control. But we don’t live in a bubble. Things do happen and we cannot isolate ourselves from them in every case. Sometimes we must stop what we are doing and deal with a problem. Sometimes we must even adjust our goals. I can’t recall who it was right now, but someone once said that life is a series of problems, and living is the process of solving those problems. The trouble-free life just doesn’t exist. As we try to move forward, we meet resistance in the form of obstacles. We can view those obstacles as problems, or we can consider them as opportunities. Many times, it is not the problem itself that cause us the most trouble. It is our attitude toward it that can keep us from dealing with it successfully. Think of it in terms of exercise. It is the resistance that makes us stronger, right?
This might be a good place to admit something to you, and to myself. When I set out to write a new essay, I rarely have a specific goal or purpose in mind. I usually think of, or see, or hear a phrase and I think about what it really means and how it applies to me. This happens just about every time I read the Bible, for example. Once I have this phrase in mind, I just let my subconscious store it for awhile. Sometimes within a few minutes, sometimes within a few hours or days, I’ve put together a series of related ideas and I begin to type. Usually, from start to finish, the actual essay may take twenty or thirty minutes to finish.
Actually, sometimes years later, I see things I’d like to improve on or correct, so perhaps they are never really finished. So, as I type, I’m not really moving toward a specific goal. I’m following a trail to see where it will lead. It’s like a little adventure. My only real goal is to say something you might find interesting or helpful, and to get it all said on one page. I don’t know if you found this essay interesting, but I did manage once again to get it all on one page, so this is a good place to stop.

From The Top Down

It has been said that great companies are built from the bottom up, and destroyed from the top down. Can you see how that applies to so many of the large companies currently, or recently, in the news. Thousands of employees and investors left holding the bag while a very few at the top, (CEO's, COO's, CFO's, etc,) have pocketed huge performance bonuses and salaries and stock incentives. Short term successes line their pockets even as they lead the company down the garden path. Well, I'm not planning to write about that today. I just wanted you to see the parallel between this and your personal wellness after 50. You could say you've built your body from the bottom up, from a single cell to a complex 50-something organism with years and miles of experience, also sometimes referred to as wear and tear. If you were to give your overall wellness a number from 1 to 10, with ten being nearly perfect, what would your number be? What would you like it to be ten or twenty years from now, realistically? I believe that a few points are contributed by your attitude. Your positive approach to life, to dealing with the daily events, breaking big problems down into a bunch of little solutions, has a lot to do with what number you answered with above, in addition to your actual physical health. From the bottom up, you need to keep giving your body the basic materials it needs to maintain itself, heal itself, and continue to thrive. Unfortunately what too often happens from the top down is we tell ourselves little lies. Lies like, "I'll start eating better right after the holidays", or "I'm going to start eating better" or "I'm going to start exercising more next month". From the top down, we sabotage our own future by making excuses for not doing what we should be doing right now.
I hope this doesn't really apply to you, but I will admit that it sometimes applies to me.

Still here!! (also B12)

I took a brief hiatus from this blog as we dealt with a number of other issues over the last month or so. But I'm still here and still doing the weekly radio talk concerning health issues, and I will get back to more regular articles here as well. One of the things we've discussed recently is vitamin B12. I'd like to take a few minutes here to share some of that information with you, because I think it might be a very important matter.

As we age, our ability to absorb B12 from our diet diminishes, but sometime around age 50 there is a significant drop. Now, I haven't found any research yet that absolutely ties these two things together in a cause-and-effect relationship, but those with elevated homocystein levels are almost certain to have very low levels of B12 in their system. Homocystein is a very important marker for cardio problems. Some researchers are indicating that keeping your B12 levels up might help lower homocystein levels, and at least it won't hurt. Now, here's the part I want most to impress upon you. All of the B vitamins, and there are many, are water soluble and must be replaced daily EXCEPT B12. You can store a store year supply of B12 in your liver! So it won't matter if you miss a dose or two. But what you want to keep in mind that taking B12 in combination with other vitamins is a waste of time and money, because they will further inhibit your absorption of B12. So take B12 either 1/2 hour before, or 1 1/2 hours after taking any other vitamins, and take it with food. Forget about the B12 on your multivitamin label. Also, you won't likely get enough B12 from your diet alone, especially after age 50. B12 is important in the formation of DNA as your cells divide.

Reminder: I am not a medical doctor and I do not give medical advice. I'm just passing along some of the interesting things I've read that might be of benefit to you. Check with your health care provider for medical advice.